Friend Part 2 Revised

So I posted this earlier today but the formatting kept getting messed up so I just redid it...

So I am apart of alot of groups on facebook... and alot of them love to send mass messages and what not... I usually ignore them because they're inviting me to somewhere where I can't get to... I mean ignore like delete before even opening... well I'm sure glad I didn't with this one... Here's the message...


"Somethings of many things that has been laying on my heart are that I would like to bring up since this group is about relationship is friends and what they really mean, and what they are really for? The term "Friends" to me has been casually been thrown around and taken out of context. The Definition of a Friend Person who Knows, Likes, Trust, Allied in a struggle with, one who supports, sympathizes with. A friend is a lover literally "No Homo" If you look up the history Friend what I am writing can be confirmed My thing with the word friend , and why I think it is casually thrown around is you cannot find to many people that you can trust, people will not open up to you all the way because they have a trust issue. And How in the world can you support a person when you don't call them on a regular basis or the only time you here from the person is on the World Wide Web. As well you can not support a person if you disagree with everything they do, or have low expectations for them. How can you call somebody a friend when, they are going through a struggle, you are nowhere to be found, or your to selfish so you always say you don't have it, and watch the person struggle knowing that in some possible way you could of helped. These are some of the reasons why I think the term friend is totally taken out of context. Reasons listed above, negates the definition of the word friend, and there are great amount of people who call each other friends and they have in there "friendships" the above problems. I am not saying stop being friends with people, take longer then you usually do to call someone a friend, or holler at me for giving my opinion and telling the God honest truth.What am saying is to evaluate what and who you call friends. If you find yourself doing for people all the time, but when you are need its like a desert and God has to bring strangers in your life to bless you, you may want to take a look at that situation. If you find yourself always calling, and visiting a person but they never come to see how you are doing and they have means of doing so , you may want to evaluate that situation as well. If you find yourself confiding in people, and your business ends up on Facebook/Myspace National you may want to evaluate that. I can go on and on but I am not I will leave it to the other 600 members to comment on what a friend really is, and really is not.!!!"


This was like oh my goodness this is so true!!! I mean I feel the same way... this semester I've been struggling to be a true friend and trying to figure out what that meant... and I know I have my downfall but I mean dag... LOL... I've had so many "friends" I really don't know who to trust... and I now can see I definitely need to stop throwing that word around as lightly and freely as I do... I mean Jesus called us friend but it was only His close disciples... it wasn't the multitudes that followed him... and then he had 3 close friends... Peter, James and John... I guess I just expect everyone to be a close friend and I want that out of people because I want that to be for them... but I don't really need anyone... cuz in the words of the wonderful Vicki Winans... Long as I got King Jesus I don't need no one else... Ya heard?

Top 5

So as a mandatory assignment from Angela Leigh Kase I have to write about the top 5 good things that has happened to me in the past month...

And I quote " This is not an optional assignment. It must be completed in full."

From the bottom up...

#5- Getting into my dance classes for the summer... I'm so excited I'm taking 5 dance classes all summer and I'm excited to learn new things and be dancing to someone elses choreography... I mean I love choreographing dances but I don't have good technique and I never can do what I envision...

#4- Getting a job a week after being home... So this was such a blessing because I didn't plan to be here this summer so it was going to be difficult looking for a job... and not only did I get hired, I started the very next day! AND the pay is good and so are my hours... who would've thought

#3- Getting my new room... my house flooded July last year and everything got ruined... Our basement never really got fixed back up and since I've been sleeping in our living room on our floor or in my sleeping bag... but now I have a room with a bed... YAY!

#2- Being apart of Khia's wedding... it was so wonderful just to see my sister get married and be able to bless her in dance.. it was wonderful and there was no other place I would have rather been!

#1- Building on the friendship that I have with Angela... it was been the best thing ever to happen to me and what I needed in this time in my life... I couldn't have asked for anything more! :)

Friend???

I just got off work and I have a major headache...

You ever see something as one thing but someone else sees it completely different? You ever want something so bad and work really hard to earn it only to find your work was in vain? Ever been hurt? I know I'm being really vague... I've been thinking alot about my relationships with people... and I just don't know... I mean you never know right, unless they tell you how they view you... I mean you could view someone as your associate and they see you as their best friend in the whole wide world... what would that do to them if you told them you didn't think they were your friend, if you had the guts to tell them?

What is a friend? What is the meaning of the word? What is the purpose of friendships? How do you know when someone has become a friend? How does it sound to say (ok, you've passed the test, you can be my friend now...)? Doesn't it just happen? Then why do we have to define relationships? Why does this sound so complicated?

Disclaimer: I've been thinking about these things for a while and this blog is not the result of one particular situation or events but of what my life has been like...

Dating

I've been thinking about dating alot lately because I'm surrounded by married, engaged or people who are dating, or even people thinking about dating... it's like everytime I close my eyes, someone is engaged or dating or something... Which is cool... for them... LOL... for me it just continually shows me how far I am from being ready to date... I say this because of my trusty handy guide to christian dating that I have by Myles Monroe called Waiting and Dating... It's an awesome book about preparing yourself for dating and marriage relationships that I try to live by (after the bible of course LOL)...

He begins talking about how "dating is an important vehicle (in our culture) for us to get an opportunity to know the opposite sex in a socially acceptable manner" and good because "the way people behave while dating usually reveals how they will behave when married." He also gives 4 principles for being ready to date... 1) knowing the benefits and dangers of dating (check) 2) understanding of God's standard's for relationships... including a clear set of guidelines for behavior based on God's Word (half a check) 3) resolve in your spirit that you will not lower or compromise those standards for any reason, even if it means losing dates (minus; I've said that numerous times, but have yet to actually do it...) 4) you don't need to date... you're in an independent state (minus minus minus... :() This is my biggest struggle area and I think it is very difficult to deal with... in the book Myles Monroe says "As long as you perceive lack or incompleteness within yourself, every relationship you enter will be, to one degree or another, an effort to supply that lack or bring a sense of completeness. If you feel deficient, you will build your entire relationship on that deficiency, because you will be looking to the other person to supply what you do not have."

I used to not even think about this because it was like I know I shouldn't even go there... but now it's all I think about... My problem in the past has been not knowing what I want and then settling for less than I know I should have... now it's not knowing what I want, and not having and prospects, and not being ready to date anyway so there's no point...

This needs to stop though... it might be becoming an unhealthy idol...

Season of learning

So I'm trying this blogging thing out again... hoping I can get people interested in my life... LOL

So we say in life you never stop learning and that you should learn something new every day... As a college student I would hope to say that this is true, that I learn something new everyday at least in my classes... well I definitely can say this is not true because I remember plenty of days of classes where I felt I didn't learn a thing... anywho... I feel like I'm in a season of learning about myself and God though it is a good place to be but it is also hard...

Things I've learned about myself include how I am SO dependent on people and how I don't depend on God enough... this came into a harsh reality when the people I depend on weren't avaliable and couldn't help me and I pretty much fell apart... and my not even really being able to know how to even ask for help from anyone and not feeling like I could even explain it to God (who knows all DUH)... I learned how selfish I am when it comes to the relationships I'm in with anyone... I want what I want when I want and I can't give you what you want until I'm ready... that sucks... I also learned that I have a really hard time in thinking or seeing God as a father...

Things I've learned about God include how merciful and gracious He is... (though I mean you know these things because you're told but experience changes alot) I mean seriously, I must serve a gracious God to be forgiven and accepted time and time again after looking for people to replace Him and being rejected or let down... and being so loving and caring and comforting every single time... giving me everything I need...

I'm still learning and I hope to continue because wisdom is priceless